Alcohol Amphetamine Addiction Intervention
I would have never had the courage or have been able to pull off the intervention without the help of Intervention Allies. My 28 year old daughter has been co-addicted to alcohol and amphetamines for about ten years now, but I didn’t realize it until five years ago. As a family, we have talked to her about it many times and often fell into the trap of “wanting to believe” her when she told us she had stopped and was clean. She knew how to play all the games…had excuses for everything, told many lies that we believed, and we became enablers for far too long. After losing her last job and being on unemployment for over 18 months and never even trying to get a job, she gradually became more and more distant with the family. She rarely showed up for family gatherings, always giving some lame excuse. Her phone calls to me became less frequent and, as her mom, I was closest to her but lived 6 states away. After flying up to New Jersey a few months ago to encourage her to sign herself into a rehab, she finally agreed and told me she had an intake interview the day after I was to return home…..another lie.
I heard from her only once in the following two months, and decided not to call. Subsequently I heard that she was now using crack and no longer just taking pills. I couldn’t sleep at night from worry over her well being and fear I would get a call that she was in a serious accident, in jail or dead. I had to do something, so late one night I went on the internet and found out about Intervention Allies. I filled out the inquiry form and got a phone call the very next day from Carmine in California. Carmine’s brother, Joe, would actually be the one to do the intervention since he lived in New York. I had several conversations with Carmine about my daughter, how the intervention would work, and the rehabilitation facility they recommended in Florida before I decided to proceed. Carmine shared his own story of addiction with me and how he lost a brother to addiction, and decided to “pay it forward” and help others. He told me how Joe was also tormented by addiction in his younger years and decided to do the same. He then had Joe call me so I could get to know him better over the phone as well, and I found Joe to have the same caring demeanor and empathy as Carmine. They both were sincere in their willingness to help and stay involved as long as necessary. So I moved forward and got the rest of the family on board with the intervention and we scheduled the date.
I don’t know the ending to this story yet. My daughter is out of detox and now in the rehabilitation facility for 30 days. I have spoken to her twice and she seems to like it and be happy to be there. But I don’t think the “layers have been peeled back” just yet. She is 7-9 weeks pregnant and hasn’t made a final decision about how she will handle the pregnancy. I still get the feeling she thinks she is on a vacation and we will resolve all of the problems she left behind because, unfortunately, we have helped her too much and too often in the past. I will speak with her therapist for the first time tomorrow. I just know that right now, thanks to Carmine and Joe’s love, kindness, strength and support, my daughter is safe and in a rehabilitation program that will give her an opportunity to start a new life and find happiness and confidence in herself again. I can sleep at night knowing no harm will come to her and that each day of being sober will bring renewed hope, forgiveness, honesty and the will to live a happy and self-fulfilled life. We can all be at rest because we know we have given her our last and best gift….the gift of treatment. She will always have our love and moral support, but the rest is up to her. Never forget the Serenity Prayer.
Thank you Joe and Carmine, for being there and guiding us through such an emotional time. We couldn’t have done it without you. I know I will be in touch with both of you over the coming weeks and thereafter. I still need your support and I know I can call either of you if I am concerned, need to talk, or have questions. It is very comforting to know you will be there for me as well. Thank you so much for helping us get our daughter to treatment.